Nutcrac, I feel you did more damage than good. Another poster gave you the better way to approach. And that was to withdraw your consent without consulting with her. This would have effectively accomplished what you wanted without her approval or disapproval. Look if she wants a D then you make her a D you. DBing isn't making it easy for her to leave. That is essentially that you are doing.

Her "D is bad because lawyers get everything" crap is just that. Crap. She wants an easy way out and that is dissolution. Fight it. Make her do the work!

This board is full of sitches where the LBS left the work of the D to the WAS. In a lot of cases the WAS decides that it's too onerous and then stays in the MR. The ones that deal with issues properly then can create a new MR out of the ashes of BD.

You are right to fight dissolution. You are wrong in thinking you can pursue her back. Fight dissolution. Make her D you. That's your best chance.

I saw nothing in the update that provided hope. I saw an obstinate spouse that was reluctantly hospitable. The refusal to accept the sweets speaks volumes. You say she wants to be pursued. Nothing in her words or actions in what you told us corroborates that declaration.

You have a bad case of NGS. You really should read the book NMMNG.

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