I completely agree. Just because I'm seeing this, doesn't mean I'm stopping my DB efforts. If nothing else, I'm more certain that this is what I need to be doing, and I need to be sticking to it.
If nothing else, it just helps me understand what happened in a more clear way. I know that W wasn't happy, but I also know now that she actually did care enough to try to fight for me...at least back then.
I don't want to put too much stock into it, because I know that was BEFORE, and now the situation requires DB and not "controlling". I'm aware completely that I can't control anyone other than myself...but I am choosing to use this as information that helps me stay focused on my efforts to work on myself.
I've always been a bit rebellious, but generally not in unhealthy ways. I know that somewhere inside W has doubts, or had them at some point, about this. As long as she has doubt, then I stand a better chance. And the harder her friends push her, the more I want to make sure I do this right.
I have to be patient. This, of course, defies my instincts, which honestly say "these people have taken over your family, fight back". But I know that if I am not patient, I will completely mess this up.
It's knowing how to fight the battles that makes the difference.
And I believe what I've seen and heard from this board. I believe that this is the correct way to fight this battle.
Sorry, I know some of my posts sound like I'm completely ignoring things...I'm not. Just thinking out loud, trying to write thoughts out so I can process them better.
