Newbie In Need Of Guidance #3

[rminer]

Wow rminer, this reminds me a lot of my W when she started coming back to the MR. I think this is all a good sign. I think you are right to be wary, but I will say just give it time. Keep up DBing. GAL, 180s, remain detached (I prefer "self differentiated"), and being the S only a fool would leave.

If she continues to be consistent over time, you'll know it is real.

Your D21 sounds like a gem! You should be sooooo grateful to have such an intelligent, mature D. If you start a new MR with your W it sounds like a lot of it would be due to your D21. And that is not a bad thing.

I'm still trying to go slow and be cautious even though I want to dive right back in. The change back to me appears to have happened so quickly, it is a little hard to believe it is real. I know these changes build up slowly over time, but it was like a switch was flipped.

Her actions are matching her words, at least on the surface, so yes that is a good thing I think. It's only been just shy of three weeks, so I'm not completely confident yet. I know sandi and others have said a woman only has room for one man in her heart, so I need to figure out if I am truly that man.


I am very proud to have D21 as my D. She, as well as D15, have been extremely supportive. Not to discount my other three kids, but those two have helped the most. D21 has always been willing to talk to me and be brutally honest with myself and my W and D15 has been there willing to simply hang out with me and let me get my mind off of things.

I couldn't ask for anything more from those two.