Thank you all for your valuable suggestions and I am surprsied I lasted upto 100 responses through the previous forum. That is quite an acheivement. In fact i thought my divorce would be final even before i could finish the first thread.
I will begin part 2 of my stitch with a teeny weeny glimpse .000001% of ray of hope.
Like i decided in the previous thread, I decided to give a surprise visit to my wife and met her. I will give a step by step interpretation of what happened below-
I took some sweets and knocked at her door. She approached me (could hear a small noise on the other side of doir) saw me through peep hole. And did not bother to open the door. I waited and knocked again Almost 5 min later she opened the door with an arrogant look
Me: hi how are you?
WAW : why did you come? You shouldn't be here. At this time we are left with a week. We shouldn't be talking to each other.
Me: (After a brief pause) I came here casually. I wanted to discuss some things with you. Can I come in at least.
WAW: its too late and I have work tomorrow. You also didn't give me a headsup. But anyways since you have come this far, you may come in. You are lije a guest to me.
I went in and removed my shoes and offered her the sweets. She rejected saying she will not accept it. That i should take it back. I insisted saying they are good ones. She said No. Didn't say a word and kept that myself.
Sat on the sofa and she was sitting diagonally opposite. Told her she has furnished the home very well. Has a beautiful balcony view. And she said "Thanks for kicking me out. Dissolution date is fast approaching. I m very happy. I will be able to move on peacefully. I didn't say a word. She offered me a glass of water. I said yes. Offered me dinner. I said no. I didnt come here to eat. Just listened to her. She asked me to let her know to discuss the details i came for. I said lets discuss it casually. There is no hurry. And asked about her well being, her work, and discussed about her family's well being. Asked how she manages to eat. She responded similar to what i had mentioned earlier - eating frozen food and the like. I saw her. Her eyes were watery (may be she had cried befire opening door) and she seemed weak. She is definitely lonely. I said since its already dinner time, lets have dinner. She had prepared some pancakes and microwaved some frozen gravy. Both of us took it and ate together silently. I asked few questions about how family is doing. She simply noded her head positively. Was a bit arrogant. I didn't bother her much. After dinner, sat there for a while and took some time to process thoughts. Then she asked me again to tell her why i came-
Me: (very very confidently and firm voice) you know i was never and even now not happy with this divorce decision. My signature on paper is just a forced decision and not my heart felt decision. I am not for it. I signed becaused of your insistence. However I do love you deeply. I spoke to my lawyer and i want to extend this for 2 more months by filing motion to reconcile and i need your help!)
WAW: i dnt want to reconcile. why do you want it ? Is it because your sister is getting married and you dont want anyone in your family to know about this before her marraige? Or is it your friends insisting?
Me: nothing to do with my family or my friends. In fact my friend's wife had tears in her eyes when she spoke to me about you. But that is notveven the reason. I took this decision. I have given pretty much everything to youbso far all the time. But i am asking you for this. This motion to reconcile is only for me. You are entitled to your feelings to divorce. But i need 2 more months.
WAW: what if i say no? And after 2 months what if you say no again? What do you plan to do? I dont want to disturb my peace of mind. I want to get this disdolved done.
Me: if you say no, i will withdraw my dissolution consent and it will get converted to a normal divorce proceedings. After 2 months we have an option either to dissolve or get this converted to divorce again.
WAW: let me write it down and discuss with my lawyer. At this time i am not sure. I will let you know. Either ways divorce is final. You will never take me as your wife and i can never take you as my husband. However, if there is anyone in this world who cares for you first is me and i am always your wellwisher. When you are in misery and lift your hand, i will be there to help you. What i want now is peaceful life. May be the motion to reconcile is a better option since divorce is more painful where lawyers make money and extract all hidden assets and ultimately it gets nullified , they make money.
Me: i have no hidden assets yo hide. I am brutally honest with you. i will ensure both of us will be peacefull in the end one way or the other. Which is why i suggested motion to reconcile. Even divorce is inot the best soltion. I agree.
WAW: So you came all the way here just to convey this? You could have simply texted over phone. ( sarcastically)
Me: i wanted to meet you and convey this to you personally. Anyways i will leave now. Got up and started wearing my shoes.
WAW: waited until i finished wearig my shoe. She Started talking about her heartfelt feelings.how i created boundaries of having our last conversation and how i didnt keep up with any of it. I offered to come in again and listen to her. She agreed.
Me: sat on thecsofa and listened to her intently with full eye contact and confidence.
WAW: (spoke some of her personal heartfelt feelings) although we can never be togetheher i may agree to this one time 2 month extension. It doesnt matter as long as i am peaceful. You need to know this divorce i am taking for helping you as well as you deserve someone better and not me. You have a very dark side in you that only i know and none of your friends and no one in this world know. I hope one day before ypu die you come to me and accept what that is? I will forgive you for whatever you have.
Me: (maintaining proper eye contact) you need to elaborate it a bit more. I dont understand. If you can give me a bit more info on the dark side it will be helpful.
WAW: you know better what i am talking about.
Me: Sorry i dont know what you are saying.
WAW: anyways i need to wake up early tomm. bye ( with an arrogant look and closed doir)
Me: i wished her the very best and left with the sweets i had got for her.
Folks let me know your thoughts.
M(35) F(35) T(6) M(6) BD 10/25/2017 S 3/12/2018 LRT 4/3 D Served 4/30 D Signed (Me) 5/1 D filed with Court 5/21 D Final 7/6 Moving on with life and doing lot of GAL since 7/6 :-)
