Every sitch is different and they all sound so familiar. IMO, that is why these practices even work.
In my sitch, I don't consider it a different sitch. I think it is a continuation due to inadequate closure. Like beating cancer into remission but not killing it all the way. The latest is merely an inevitable flare-up.
I don't wish it on anyone.
I now believe that the reason we all screw up at first is due to our transformation when we become enmeshed in our Rs as well as Hollywood. It is called NGS here, but I think it is an embracement of our feminine energies. Instead of acting like centered masculines we chase and beg and cry. No, I'm not saying that men should deny their emotional responses, but it ain't going to bring her back. A lot of it will most surely drive her away.
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I still think it is hugely significant that 5/18 came an went without your W moving out. But as always in these things, time will tell!
I do too, but hearing it from you helps. I could easily attribute it to external forces. But hearing it from someone else that has followed my story give perspective. Add the respect and consideration and the picture becomes clearer even yet.
It often falls on deaf ears but I urge the other guys to act as if they don't give a crap and they are moving on. Both for themselves and the Rs. We are scared of letting go and losing control. I see it in myself. I read about it here.
M 53 W 54, M since 98 D15, D19 8/2013 discovered EA, W maintained contact with OM until 10/14 7/2/17 W said she wanted S, 7/25/17 moved out of MBR 12/17 W says moving out 5/18, W still in home.
It often falls on deaf ears but I urge the other guys to act as if they don't give a crap and they are moving on. Both for themselves and the Rs. We are scared of letting go and losing control. I see it in myself. I read about it here.
Solid. I know I've recently posted in a couple of poster's threads about this very thing. The thing is letting go is about regaining control, not losing it. Regaining control over ourselves and our emotions. The illusion of losing control over our WAS is just that, an illusion. Because we never had that control to begin with.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
