Okay, so...this is complex, so I'll try to make this as easy as I can, but like I said...it's complex.
Key === W = well, you know who this is N1 = toxic person, h of N2. Also cousin of F and happens to be a cop N2 = toxic person, w of N1 F = a friend of mine, cousin of N1
After W left, and I started to try to GAL, I met F. Yes, female, but just friends. She happens to be the cousin of N1.
N1/N2 are W's "best friends in the whole world", and W and N2 have a side business together.
F has had a really bad life, abused in many ways, definitely has issues. F told me about two days ago about N1 basically grilling her about our friendship. Basically trying to get her to give up information about whether there was a thing with us or not. She has stated over and over again to them that we are just friends.
F, despite being family, has always been targeted by both N1/N2 for no clear reason.
Since N1/N2 have been focusing attention on F, W has been a bit more approachable, almost caring with me.
W also has a past history of severe emotional and physical abuse spanning most of her childhood and even into young adulthood.
Today I've learned that W had stopped working with N2 for some time due to "drama", which I knew about, but W never said what that was about other than "negativity, drama"...but another friend who knows W and also has known N1/N2 for about 15 years that W said AT THE TIME SHE STOPPED WORKING WITH N2 that she quit because they were constantly pressuring her to leave me, and she wasn't okay with that. She wasn't terribly happy, however she wanted to focus on not losing me. Apparently this has gone on for over two years now, almost non-stop.
N1 appears to be trying to use police interrogation tactics to manipulate F into giving him info to give to W in an effort to push W farther away from me.
Basically...I don't think W is in control of the situation at all...I think N1/N2 are pressuring her into this because they don't like me, simply because I don't play their drama games. Never have. They have always been really creepy to me.
I know it's convoluted. But given what they are doing to F (literally pushing her out of the family, which they know means more to F than anything else in the world, simply for being friends with me), it's obvious that they are very manipulative, controlling, and downright abusive...and they'll do it to their own family.
Both W and F are easy targets for NPD people...and both have been in the past.
Someone with NPD would use that to their advantage to basically build up their own narcissistic supply, at the cost of whatever as long as it isn't their own feelings about themselves.
Given what I've learned today, it's ENTIRELY plausible that either N1 or N2 have NPD, have attempted to discard me because I don't supply them with anything, and at some point down the road would absolutely discard W as well...which she won't see coming. And by then, I'll be long gone because I'm not useful. Nor is F. Nor is W.
I think that N1/N2 are basically willing to abuse anyone to get what they want...and in this case, they are using W as a proxy to get rid of me.
