I think i worry that communicating this to him will be a way of emotionally black mailing him. I dont want it to put him in a position in which he is doing something he doesnt want to do. I dont want him to feel the need to make up excuses to back out of spending time with son and i which is what i feel like he is doing. I know he likes me.
I think a big issue for me is feeling like my son is being rejected.
As you know, my son is adhd and there has been some concern that he is on the spectrum. Recent neurologists, and neuropsychologists think its more of an adhd issue not autism...but im talking real adhd not just a discipline issue that people typically write it off as. My son also has iq scores that would qualify him for mensa. You would think that would be a good thing. But it adds a different component to the behavior and discipline. His social and emotional maturity does not match his academic ability. And we struggle with his behavior. He has no problems making friends. He is extremely out going and fun. But he cant keep them.
When my ex first left, a lot of my family and my best friend told me its cause he couldnt handle our son.
I think i was having trouble handling son, and ex just didnt have it in him to deal on a daily basis.
My ex mil initially doted on my son. Once i got that autism diagnosis she moved to another state for half the year and she is not as available to spend time with son. This could just be coincidental, but i notice this. She barely sees him anymore, yet recently told me she cant help with baby sitting for a bunch of weeks. (Although she will help for other weeks) He is her only grandchild.
So him not wanting to hang out with both me and my son hits me big time. He hasnt admitted it. I dont think he actually could admit to something like that? Could anyone? Instead i can see him just making excuses, probaby hoping i dont ask him or that i get the hint.
This could all be in my head as well. Maybe im sensitive and seeing sonething thats not there. Or expecting too much too early.
Right now, im just looking at actions or lack there of.
