LoneWlf, thanks so much. I really appreciate it. I hope we can all report more positive outcomes down-the-road.

Neffer, I read your post on your thread and will respond to it ASAP. Thanks for your encouragement. If you happen to read this post, could you kindly clarify what you mean by undefined wife / mother relations?

Arsh, I don't understand either, but I don't want to ask any questions or seem like I care too much. The way my husband spoke yesterday was just as if we were married living our normal life. Today he called and was saying what a beautiful car it is. I think he just wanted a way to pawn the car off to me next year so he can get the one he really wants, but his logic seems to be that next year he'll be able to afford it and this year he can't. So either he's taking a gamble that we'll make money on our house if sell it or he thinks we'll be together and he won't be paying these extra thousands to support us next year. It's hard to imagine he thinks he'll be better off financially next year if we get divorced unless he just has no idea how much he'll have to pay, but I've tried to give him numbers multiple times based on what the lawyer advised. So who knows. Maybe he's not thinking at all. Maybe he's just acting based on how he feels at the moment - "I'll buy the car she wants! Then I'll buy the one I want! Win win for everyone!" I just don't know. If he comes next week as he says he will then perhaps I'll have a better sense as to which way things are headed. He might show up next week in a terrible mood and start talking about divorce again or he might now come at all. There's no way to know.

All, I do have a few questions for anyone who reads this and has followed my thread -

Is my husband a walkaway or wayward? I can't figure it out. There seems to be so much knowledge on this board about wayward wives but I can't find much about husbands. Do the same rules apply? For example is there a "No More Mrs. Nice Woman" book that wives should read and do wayward husbands leave based on lack of respect the way WW's do?

Are others here still wearing their wedding rings? When my husband asked for a divorce in January and then took his girlfriend to Dubai I stopped wearing mine. It felt like the right thing to do. On the other hand, I don't want to falsely advertise that I'm single when I'm still married.


Thanks for any input. I need to read the DB book again. I lost it when I moved last year, accidentally re-ordered the old version, and need to buy the newer version again.