I understand what Nicole says, in no world is this fair. the pain and suffering LBS goes thru and yet while DB is for a better life for LBS the main intent is to work towards R. I think it is okay to stand up for the MR and to keep hope alive, because it shows integrity and strength of character. All of us here are not evil people who ruined our Ss life, we made mistakes like most other married couples do but are unfortunate that we end up here instead. I would say go with what the DB coach says and bring up going dark with your coach too and get their perspective on it as well. Be strong there will be better times ahead. I may not feel it for my own sitch, that is always the case with all of us, that is why we need the mutual support.
