Do you think it would be better to include her more in the decision part of this? I was focusing more on the detaching part and the GAL stuff and thinking that if I involved her more, that she would see it as pursuit.
Involve her how? Are you talking about butter her up, before you approach her about moving as a family, and having a fresh start as man & wife? Isn't that why you were wanting to work together in the yard, and that other stuff? You were trying to ease her into a better emotional place? You asked if it was pursuing and I answered honestly. The decision was up to you. If you plan to move as a family, like you have in mind......it seems as if you would have to do a bit of pursuing at some point. I mean, were you planning to tell her the night before the move? I just don't understand your thinking, so you've got to help me out here.
Here's the thing, and it's just my opinion. I think it would be exceptionally rare if she agreed to move on the conditions of reconciling the MR. That's what you want, right? Rare, but not impossible. What do you have to lose? IDK.......that's your decision. You have to weigh your options.
I don't know how quickly you would need to give the other employer an answer and move to the other location. I'm just saying as a woman, it would be better if I had time to think it over. Yes, if it was going to affect my life (like where I would be living).....I would like to feel I had a little bit to do with the decision making. Wouldn't you, if it were reversed?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
