NC is not some magical pill. The whole point of NC is to give the LBS space and start making meaningful changes to themselves. Your W is not the only manipulative person and actually most WW and WAWs are. Your situation is not unique - my W also told me she felt unloved etc etc.
You're trying to find a magical solution and there isn't one. Pursuit is going to make it all worse.
NC also doesn't mean ignoring. It means attending to matters of business only, in a pleasant and assertive way.
Apathy can turn into curiosity and mystery for her if you give NC enough time and make changes within yourself.
First step - stop thinking your situation is unique, it's not. Leave the situation alone and only engage for matters that need to be discussed.
