I was thinking the same thing. Im going to ask her is she is xommitted to saving the mr and she wi say no. So im not going to indulge her. Not to mention i just discovered birth control(it was an issue for us because she didnt like it and the risk of cancer, etc. And i know that this has been going on for awhile because i found a receipt for an oyster bar near the guys house. It was for 2 guests(oysters which my wife wouldnt eat, scallops, and two beers. Probably went back to his place after.
You are starting to spiral. Take a step back and calm down. Try your hardest to move on and let this go. You have all the evidence you need for now. You are really looking for the def information to show her guilty. If you approach her without Dec info, she willing only go deeper.
Now you have a source that she is being sloppy with. Wait until you get undeniable proof and then approach and then stop snooping.
M:37 W:37 T:11 M:10 S17, S13, S10, S4 BD:06/28/17 OM confirmed 07/20/17 Recon the M 10/29/17 Working hard:2gether
Onward and forward
This process is not a sprint it's a marathon! Patience, Patience, Patience.
may i suggest you read Hoosjim's situation?.. when, just a couple of months ago, he finally stood up to his wife, after months and months of her Waywardness, and told her he would not tolerate her affair... you might find some inner strength if you start there...
--artista
^^^Yup.
You will never look more attractive to her than when you are walking away. I think I am going to change my profile signature to include that line. It's gold.
And FF, it sounds like from reading your sitch that you at least have some good memories and a foundation for a relationship with your W... At the time of my WW's BD on me, we had NONE of that. And yet we still made it back from the brink.
Don't put up with the disrespect and abuse of an affair. Listen to Sandi2 and Artista. They WERE WW's... they have LIVED this.
Be strong, man! Sending up some prayers for ya...
H53/W51, R-ing 4/'18
"Do not arouse or awaken love until it so desires"-Sg.of Sg 2:7
"So oftentimes it happens,that we live our lives in chains, & we never even know we have the key"-Eagles III 1:3
Thank you everyone. I am hurting bad. No doubt about it. I also found birth control. Its making me sick. But im going to get my [censored] together and fall back till i have definitive proof!
We all know the feeling. Go for a walk or run please. Get out of your house. Don't go to a bar. Keep posting. There are many here that can help you navigate, your emotions and sitch.
Stay patient.
M:37 W:37 T:11 M:10 S17, S13, S10, S4 BD:06/28/17 OM confirmed 07/20/17 Recon the M 10/29/17 Working hard:2gether
Onward and forward
This process is not a sprint it's a marathon! Patience, Patience, Patience.
