Expers Please Help!!! Walk Away Spouse after 6 yrs

[OrangeK]

Steve85, I think you need to read some of sandi2's post regarding my situation. I cannot stand my ground and at the same time not listen to what she says. I have already mentioned, my situation is very different Unlike many other situations in this forum. My wife has lost out of love and trust and felt unloved. She has exaggerated quite a bit. But it is what it is. Although WAW, she needs to be heard and listened to. She cannot simply take me as her husband at this time as her heard doesnt allow. She only wants to accept me as her friend. At the same time, she has missed me too much. The No Contact in my case created more apathy rather than bridging the gap as I did not attempt to contact her. That is exactly what sandi2 mentioned in some of her posts as i didnt allow her to talk or listen due to my ego issues.

I dont think anyone ever told you to IGNORE her, but you need to understand the difference between DETACHING and IGNORING.

try re reading the 37 rules and looking at them from a different view, look at it as though it was your best friend and his wife, not you and yours. Follow the advice you would unbiased give to a close friend. try to disconnect your personal feelings and look at it surgically.

I know i tell a lot of people to read my sitch, its because i failed on so many of the rules, and you can see where that got me.

I spent the better part of 2 weeks disagreeing with the advice i was getting here, and all it did was cause me to backslide into deep depression.

Its easy to feel your sitch is unique and different, when in reality they are all somewhat the same, but none are identical.
Yours does not seem altogether too much different than others here.

I agree with Steve, the path you are on is a path to destruction IMHO.

Step back, breathe, take a second look and re-evaluate.