Good luck Nutcrac. I've said before to others that I do not understand those that come to this forum for advice, and then completely ignore the advice. I can understand slipping up, but this breach of DBing is premeditated.
You asked for sandi's input. sandi wrote 37 rules. One is BELIEVE NOTHING SHE SAYS. Yet you hang on every word as if it is gospel. So good luck, I will continue to read your sitch but I think you are headed for losing her with your actions.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018