First, thanks for responding and in such detail. I think you are spot on that I want her to see my changes because I feel they are real and positive. I am preparing myself for life without her and now know that I can handle that but I certainly dont want it. Nor do I want to be controlling in my words. However apart from learning a lot on the trip what else is objectionable? I want to validate and respond in a friendly manner. How can I do that without implicitly trying to get a reaction out of her? Not responding or responding totally business like sends it own message which I dont think I want either.
W 34 Me 42 Married 7 years together 8 0 kids 1 beloved dog BD 4/6/2018 I moved out 4/7/2018 I moved back in alone 8/05/2018 I file 3/06/2019 D official 5/7/2019
