My exH was excessively critical, but I always knew his view of things was skewed and didn't really let it affect me - I knew his self-talk was even more critical than what I got. (One example - reviewing photos after our honeymoon, one shot of me in short shorts, hiking the Swiss alps, taken from below with all my weight on one leg - of course I had a little saddlebag on my thigh. I was actually UNDERWEIGHT at the time, 5'6" 118 lbs with ribs that stuck out, but H had to comment on my thighs. His friend came to view the same photo and his first comment was how hot I looked in that picture!) So I always knew ex was not a good mirror and really didn't take in much of his negativity.
