We finished up the discussion by agreeing to get back into councilimg to help us regain some respect for eachother anf to work on our communication.
Agreeing to see a counselor to "work on your communication" is WW code. It means she is going to wait for the session and announce that she wants a D. She won't leave the house, and will suggest "in-house separation" until she files for D. However, she'll drag her feet about actually pursuing the D, b/c she has to see if her Plan A is secure.
I wish I could tell H's everywhere that agreeing with a WW (you suspect of having OM) to have counseling in order to work on communication is bunk. The only reason to meet with a WW in counseling sessions is if she is fully committed to saving the MR.....which isn't likely if she has another man in her head.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
