I had a little ratch about online, out of curiosity. I think that's what dipped my mood.

I discovered a few new things. But really, what difference does that make grand scheme of things?

Mostly, I discovered how obsessed XH was with OW in the period after they met and before October 2015. Like I hadn't somehow understood that anyway before?

Also evidence of him messing around with other women...one in particular, a work colleague...a high profile one. Which I had felt in my gut as well, seeing as I met her a couple of times and got a very weird vibe off her. I had wanted to like her, but when I let her I really didn't take to her at all, and I remember feeling disappointed.

Come to think of it, it was the same vibe that I got from OW...very closed off, like there was a brick wall between us. And it was one that I hadn't put there.

The strangest thing is, I got that vibe from someone else, back in 2013 I think...another woman...but the circumstances were really different. She had a one night stand with one of XH's work colleagues. I remember I was sitting next to her and having that same feeling, and being really confused by it, as everyone I had met up to that point had been so friendly and open.

Anyway, there we go.


Me: 48, XH: 42
T: 18 years, M: 15 years

EA/PA 1: 6/2012
EA/PA 2: from autumn 2012-present

BD: 5/2013
ILYBNILWY BD & left: 10/2015

OW conceived: 8/2016
Born: 4/2017

H filed: 7/2017
D final: 28/12/2017