Being detached vs cold is so hard to decipher.... I know you are trying to validate but may be it is better to just say politely enough that you rather not do this via text? Just my thoughts..
Yes it's hard to decipher and sometimes hard not to act cold when being detatched. As far as the texts go, I can't win because she continued texting (even after my last message stating it would be best in person because texts can be taken or deciphered in different ways).
The last message stated there is nothing to talk about: "I don't think there's anything to discuss after the 16 plus talks we have had already and after your recent display in front of them again that you don't want me back.
IF you felt differently then we would've had our daughters bday party TOGETHER.. but he didn't want that."
I started to respond and then said nope, I've already told her this should continue in person and I need to stick to what I said.
The "16+" conversations was more like 6 until I realized what persuing was and stopped initiating all R talks. Keep in mind that was several months ago and before our physical separation. I take that comment as she has no interest in talking about herself to me and what she has learned or we have felt or learned, etc. All this is coming from a mom who the night before our D5s birthday party told D7 she was at OM house watching a movie. Now because she chose to step out from the MR and separate my life with her and my life with my kids Im the bad guy for not wanting her back and having a party together?! I call that cake enough and I've had enough of that from her.
So how do I continue on detatching/dropping the rope AND keep an open line of communication available? I believe a big hurdle my WW has is talking about her feelings to me and if she starts telling me her feelings I think it is a step in the right direction...am I wrong?
Me:37 W:42 T:14 yrs M:10.5 yrs D:7 D:5 BD: 1/6/18 OM Discovered: 1/29/18 WW moved out 5/12/18
