Thanks V, yes it is controlled behavior, IC seems to think I am the trigger for his anger, he does not know how to justify his actions and I remind him of all his bad decisions hence the outlet. Either way it is toxic to stay together at this point.
Nicole, I think similar to you, he has been a good person for 15 years, I rather see that than the last 6 months. But he definitely has been an extremely angry individual post BD. I dont want to go away to my parents country now, there was a time but it has passed. and travelling with 2 children for 22 hours is hard. Anyway at that time he did restrict it, if I had insisted I could have gone but things took a different turn instead.
