Afraid of the dark PART 3

[Ste7e]

Agreed I just thought I was further along on my cumulative steps
Two things she said which I though were weird
First she commented about how I need to make the changes I am making for myself not her which I never said or implied I was doing
So she at least sees changes
Second when I cried she really softened and we were able to talk like humans to one another
She commented about how I cant be happy all the time so maybe my positivity she thought was all fake (maybe I am coming across as fake)
She doesnt trust what she is seeing

Can someone explicitlly explain again what exactly constitutes pursuit and why we should avoid it