Meanwhile 12 Years Later

[DonH]

Okay gang, here's my Monday morning date report - only I was still on my "date" Monday morning so I'm finally getting to it Tuesday afternoon.

I have to admit I am surprised - pleasantly so. Yet I still have many of the same thoughts and concerns as two weeks ago but am just going with it - amazingly well for me I might add.

So quick recap, Wild Girl met a year ago, texted on and off and then finally hung out two weekends ago after a gig. Not really an official date, but honestly it was not much different than dates. We then actually met up and went out on a real date last week Saturday. We talked and texted during the week. She had first said she was very busy and wasn't even sure if she could keep the first real date over a week ago. Then late in this past week, Thursday or Friday, she said "I told you I'm off on Sunday and Monday." I finally asked her out again and she said "I thought you would never ask." So we made plans for Sunday afternoon. She lives about 70 minutes away and asked right off "should I bring an overnight bag." This slightly scared me or at least gave me pause, due to her sexual nature and this was early in the going. Yet, drinking and being out later Sunday and driving home is a legit reason to stay - if not a darn good excuse.

She arrived about 2 and put her bag in the guest room after I showed her around. hmmmmm interesting. I'd say for sure it was just an act or a gesture but I noticed. We went downtown to the riverwalk which is about 3 miles long with tons of places to stop along the way. Conversation and laughter was pretty much non-stop. She said one of the reasons she's interested or out with me again is because I constantly make her laugh. How often has that been said by women - they want a guy who makes them laugh.

Before we knew it, she asked what time it was. I had no idea and we were both shocked it was already 7:45. We were both clearly having a great time and both said so. We stopped at like half a dozen places. Having to drive, I drank about half as much as she did, together with a couple appetizers. It was just fun, somewhat romantic with hand holding and some kisses, and a good time.

We were going to go back to my house and have a fire in the pit on my deck but we really had not eaten much for like 12 hours so we decided for a late dinner - like around 9. In hindsight not the best idea - Mexican with a large margarita. We made it back to my house by about 10:30 and she was clearly tired and feeling the drinks. This actually worked out for the better, believe it or not as I wanted to make her wait anyhow. I'm not going to get graphic but it really is part of this story so even though her bag was in the guestroom, she was not. She warned me she snores and hogs the bed and then proceeded to prove it about 60 second later. Yes, she was that tired that she was snoring in less than a minute. And I'm not kidding! LOL Being a seasoned musician who sometimes shares rooms with other musicians, I went and got my ear plugs. She thought this was hilarious when I told her the next morning.

So up until this point, it was pretty much a typical good date. Had I picked her up or she lived closer, that would have been that. Instead, the next morning is where things really surprised me. After both waking up around maybe 8:30 AM, we lied around until..... wait for it..... 3:05 PM! Time just flew by as we talked (for the most part) about all sorts of things. It was here that I started to see perhaps I had misread her. Or am I just liking her and changing it in my mind? Perhaps it's a little of both but there is clearly more to this girl than I first thought. We both had said early on that we are not each other's typical type. I guess for her that type often is tall, young farm boys - duchebags as she puts it. Very much not me - in all respects. It was very interesting to find out more about her.

We finally made it outside to my deck, too early for a fire but while she had intended to leave for home by then, and had told her daughters she would, she now "decided" or used the excuse of waiting until after the rush hour traffic. So we continued to just hang out, talk about non-sense and fun and some serious things until mid-evening. It was very interesting when she said "the more I talk to you, the more attractive and sexy you become." Again, we've all heard that before too.

She dropped a couple of hints that should could stay another night. We really were having that much fun. However, at this point, I really did think it best to stop here and wait for another day. We were ending on a really, really high note - why keep pushing. Plus, for me, often a three hour date is more than enough... we were not pushing into 30 hours (that felt more like 3) so I know I made the correct decision.

I'm still somewhat where I was when this started. We certainly are different in many ways including I'm 55 and she is 42 - something that I know concerned her or still may. That too, however, she now talks about how I do not at all act or look my age. Both very true statements. Unless there is more to come, she's not as wild as she puts out or I assumed. Wilder than many perhaps but our 6+ hours of conversation Monday showed me again, what I had assumed were random hookups were not. However, perhaps just as bad, she seems to fall quickly, at least for the wrong guys. Like others here on this board, she believes or at least wants to believe what these guys are telling her. Takes them at face value, assumes they really are into her and wanting more from her - then moving on quickly after they get it. That's why, as she claims anyhow, she put a stop to that about 5 months ago - well at least until this weekend.

So there you have it. Clearly my best date in a year - perhaps two. It's beyond nice and refreshing to know that I can still enjoy being with someone like this. Only a couple of months ago it was being said:

- You like being on your own better than being with others.
- No woman in the world will ever be good enough.
- You aren't looking and everyone knows that.
- The only women I approach aren't interested either.
- And other such things

Clearly I am still capable of wanting to be with someone - at least on some level. It nearly felt, around the 24 hours prior to this date, like I was again getting "those" feelings... thinking "why am I even doing this?" and "do I really want to be doing this." It was almost uncontrollable how those feelings came and I even didn't want to feel that way. Now, I'm hoping it doesn't happen again or come back. I don't think it will - unless she really pushes or pursues and then....

And of course it's always feast or fammon, right? So I already just got a text from another girl who is in town this week and wants to meet. Of course that's the case! LOL I'll likely go, though I really am busy, and my thoughts might be elsewhere - but it will be a good test.

Wild Girl and I have no future date plans set but she called last night, letting me know she was home and giving me the daughter report (obviously she had to let the girls 15 & 17 know where she was and they figured out with whom) and a few, short, random texts today. I really am busy with more invites than I have time for, plus band gigs Thursday through Sunday with several hours travel time to a few of them. A wedding invite, birthday party, retirement gathering and likely a dinner date with the out of state girl home visiting her parents. It's actually good that we are both so busy as it will help us not to get ahead of ourselves. I'll be driving within 15 minutes of her twice this weekend so that might provoke a short stop. Otherwise I'm thinking maybe 4th of July? Time will tell.

She's clearly interested in going out again as am I. I'm betting she's wondering when the other shoe will drop and I'll turn into all these other guys. Or perhaps she's maybe starting to figure out she's been choosing the wrong guys even though better options are out there. I'd be beyond shocked if she just ghosted me or anything remotely close as I know and will still see her parents and aunt. If anything, she seems to have a hard time being rude or mean to anyone - or perhaps this is a broken part of her - as she admitted that even some of these guys that screwed with her, including the guy who claimed he had left his wife - is still sending texts... that she sometimes answers. Hmmmmmmmm her's to figure out, not mine, but interesting. After seeing a picture of her and I downtown, two of them contacted her. Again very interesting.

So I'm going to move forward. Still don't think I'm in any danger zone other than, if it would end, while I might not be heartbroken over her, that door is clearly now open, I've remembered how much fun all of this can be when it goes well, the seal has been broken so to speak, so it would be extremely hard not to want more - from SOMEONE.

So there you go! My Monday morning dating report - on Tuesday afternoon.