Just for reference, here's the text of my request to everyone. Sharing because maybe someone else could use help figuring out what to say if they're in this situation (slight edits for forum):
Everyone,
I know you have all been supportive and well-meaning with all of the drama going on with W. But going forward, I do not wish to see any pictures, screenshots, texts, or anything at all about her or what she is up to. I know that there are things happening that I don't like, and that may (or may not) be relevant to the divorce, however I cannot continue to see/hear/be involved in any of them if I honestly expect to recover from this.
Again, I appreciate the support, however I can't heal when I keep hearing about her behavior.
The bottom line is this: I want to be the best dad that I can be for S, and I want to stick with my plan. I can't afford to keep getting derailed.
I would recommend that if you are friends with W, consider unfriending either her or I. I would hate to see you go, however it's in the best interest of S and my mental, physical, and emotional health if I am not exposed to anything else, and I won't take it personally. Most of you have my phone number, and I can be reached there. If you don't have it, and would like to say hello, it's (withheld). Just because we aren't friends on Facebook doesn't mean we aren't friends.
Unfortunately, I cannot just deactivate my Facebook account because of the pages related to my website, band, and other things that I have to keep running. If not for those things, I would just log off for a while.
I want you all to know that I truly appreciate the support and friendship you have shown me. But I can't keep going down this path of feeling better and then getting hurt repeatedly. It's best if I detach.
I will do my best to cut out the posts about it. I tend to use Facebook like a journal, but honestly...I just need a break. I need to take some time for myself, focus on the things I can control, and stop thinking about the things I can't.
