Advice for newcomer pre- bomb drop.

[OrangeK]

I'd like to go back to the Father's Day initiation for a second. Because it just struck me that another anti-divorce author (not MWD) talks about a phenomenon when it comes to WAWs/WWs and the LBH detaching.

When you detach properly and they start to feel the loss of control slipping away, they will often resort to sex (and if they are in a full blown PA usually it is oral sex) in order to reestablish some control. She predicted that when the LBH emotionally differentiated that the cheating W would usually go to that.

Wives in limbo (many of whom are in PAs) are unsure of what they want, but they know they want that safety net there. Since intercourse is often saved for the AP, they will resort to oral sex to try to control the H.

Anyway, that just hit me.

Holy Mackerel Steve, My WW did this, twice. Once with the O Sex, and last year day before my Birthday she did the same thing with full intercourse. It felt like $1,000,000 because she had sex starved me so bad.
It kept me hanging for months longer, as i had been getting suspicious and began asking questions.
This shut me up quite effectively both times.

Cant believe i never saw this. Fits like a damn GLOVE.
*Sorry for Hijack*