Advice for newcomer pre- bomb drop.

[OrangeK]

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I would start working on yourself. Hit the gym, hangout with friends. Dont invite her to any of it. The more you try to please her the more you will push her away. Do things because you want to do them, not because you think it will make her happy.

I don't think that just going off without an explanation would do anything but magnify the negatives she already associates with me. I know i need to do some serious 180's, but not sure that one would be productive.

I know it doesn't seem that way, but i am telling you now, chasing, pursuing, trying to talk, ANYTHING that feels REMOTELY like you are begging, trying, pursuing, or trying to ask questions or mind read WILL BE MET WITH COLD HOSTILITY.

You NEED to abide by Rule #17 - It is key. If i had done this from Day One, i MAY still be living with WW.
Chasing and begging, when i should have been HARD CORE implementing Rule #17 is easily one of my biggest mistakes i made in the entire process.

It seems counter productive when you are so RAW and wanting answers, but i am telling you now 150% RexGM and Sandi know what they are talking about here. DONT IGNORE IT.

Go ready my sitch if u want to see where ignoring this advice gets you.