This is good as long as you don't try to say that you are perfect. We all can improve. As people. As employees. As spouses. The key is to learn from it and move forward.
One of things I have found is that there are red flags along the way. Limerance makes us over look that. mtb, you even said she had periods of seeking the kind of attention she is currently seeking. Red flag. OK in your sitch you point out things that your W has in her past that point to the things you mention above.
So while it isn't "your" fault, there were points where better decisions could have been made. Even if it was the mistake of getting her pregnant before we really knew her. Or marrying her before we really knew her. Or blatantly ignoring red flags because well we were in love!
The point is that all of our sitches can be learned from. If you were an absent, neglectful, selfish H like I was for many years, then the learning is that treating any R like that will lead to its breakdown.
Their actions are owned by them. But we can learn from the mistakes we've made.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
