Going the Distance (Saying ILY Pt. 6)

[OrangeK]

MTB,

you accurately call it a rabbit hole. this is true.

I found resources like Quora before i found DB, so i was still SUPER raw, in shock and hurting, and it all really did fit like a glove.

I agree on not becoming a keyboard diagnostician, and though I am personally convinced my WW has some sort of Cluster B Personality Disorder Cocktail (Anti-Social/Borderline?Narcissist) I am not qualified to quantify my hypothesis at all.

She will need to get to a point where she seeks help herself and goes to receive such a diagnosis, and whatever applicable treatment that goes with it.

Some takeaways i had from researching NPD and BPD

Remorse, Regret, Guilt and Responsibility for actions - They lack the capacity to feel these things. We cannot expect them.

She is far more damaged than the damage she caused. I pity the way she must internally live her life. it must be exhausting and miserable.

Looking back, i missed SO MANY red flags of the Love-Bomb, Devalue, Discard cycle, not only in my R but others before mine as well.

If a person has NO "lifers" or really old friends, and very few family members they get along with, there is likely a reason.

Once you decode the minutia of a WW's personality traits, her behavior becomes somewhat predictable.

"the best indicator of future behavior is past behavior"

Here is the cardinal rule i learned.

It. Was. Not. Your. Fault. EVER.