Need advice on detaching- Part 2

[kiro]

Thanks LoneWlf. Yes it does put an interesting perspective. As my DB coach put it, I am an insightful person I am always happy to add new perspectives to my long list that I've built over the past 11 months

I could "explain" what happened in so many different ways and describe it from various angles. I don't know where the reality is.

I know that there is pain involved. I know that deep down no one is a bad person. No one wants to be the bad person.

I know that no one can be totally objective when describing reality, when judging ourselves and formulating an opinion about others.

I know that what we read, what we watch, what we listened to, where we live, and the people we befriend all affect us and influence what we do.

I know that our views can change over time. I know that we can get confused about wrong and right.

I know that we fear death and we fear aging. I know that there comes a time (or many times) in our life when we feel that we haven't achieved our dreams and that life is short.

I know that feelings and emotions can vary and cannot be trusted. I know that feelings that we thought would live forever, can actually die.

I know that everything is relative. Marriage, commitment, faith, kids, family... everything can be questioned.

And I know what pain feels like. I've had my own share of it during my life. We think that no one can understand our pain. And we want to end it at any price. People will do the most irresponsible things to end their pains.

But one of the biggest blessings that God has given me over the past year is the ability to connect with and share the universal pain. I have become much more empathetic and am able now to connect much easier with others because I now understand that what everyone is actually looking for is that connection and the feeling that we are understood.

And that's what my W and I failed to share during our 17 years of marriage.