Thanks everyone. Arsh I am not sure I managed the art of DB. I made a lot of mistakes. If you read my threads you'll see that.
The one thing that I did the best was the 180s. Part of that was that I was not happy with who I had become. I honestly believe that it was God's providence that all this occurred to wake me out of my sleepwalking. When my wife first started to soften about 6 weeks after BD it was because I was being so consistent with my 180s. As I pointed out the other day, I have to remain vigilant with them. I have a lot in my past that causes me to be overly careful with spending, and things like that.
In fact, I almost slipped last night! She had gone to the store to get some more things for VBS, and she also spent on some other things that I feel were probably unnecessary. But again, it isn't as if we are going to go into the poor house because she bought this stuff. So I have to remember that what is most important is that she too can buy things and I have to just let it go!
Anyway, this is how to have a harmonious relationship. To let her, within reasonable (by reality standards not by my standards) amounts, spend money and not be so critical of every penny that is outlaid.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
