blackmac, we ALL make mistakes in DBing. There have been very few that do it perfectly. One thing to note, those that have done it very well are usually very successful in attracting back their spouse. Every setback does hurt your chances.
But setbacks are in the past. All you can do is resolve to do better from this point forward. That is what DBing is about. Picking yourself back up by your bootstraps and going back to work.
I feel like you and OrangeK are in similar situations. Very dangerous situations. Where the WW is attempting to provoke you into doing something that will get you more permanently out of their hair. Don't take the bait.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018