Going the Distance (Saying ILY Pt. 6)

[mtb1981]

Careful, you need a psychologist to diagnoise NPD. It's like a horoscope could fit anyone who reads it.

I am aware. That's why I made the comment that I am not a psychologist. But damn... it blows my mind how well the glove fits...

Instead say she is abusive by analysing her behaviour not her character. It doesn't really matter what type of disorder she has or even if it's co morbid. If she is abusive and it's been there throughout (systemic) then it's an R you need out of. These abusers rarely change, and certainly it takes a very long time.

I've always been hesitant to say she was abusive, but after looking at her long term behavior, I've dealt with a lot. The woman can't tell the truth to save her life. And manipulation is her number one talent. I've caught myself justifying her bad behavior for years. I guess because I didn't want to believe that she was that way. I've cleaned up so many of her messes over the years and still been made out to be the bad guy only later to be told that I was the greatest thing since sliced bread...

I trust you have read the abuse thread?

The way to deal with this type of abuser is NC.

I think I may have stumbled across it once. I will have to see if I can find it again. NC has been working wonders for me. I have refused to play her games, and it has driven her crazy. She just keeps upping the ante, and I continue to refuse to be dealt a hand. She's gonna have to find someone else to play with...