Raw- I am sure they think about LBH and I could bet there is a ton of guilt they need to sort out. IO am sure they miss LBH but would never show you or admit it. This would only show you that they made the wrong choices. They are too much ego driven and prideful for that.

As for her trip-First always be upbeat and positive in all your interactions with W. Treat her as if she is a cashier and keep thins positive and light. You may ask her about her trip but stop it at that. Do not ask probing questions about who , what, where, when and why -that is persuit. If she gives you information be attentive look her in the eye and try to validate when you can.

M51 w50
T-20Yrs M-16Yrs
S15- mad at W for not trying and giving up
1 Awesum dog
BD 10/31/17
separate rooms 02/08/18
wife moved out 05/17/18