Steve, he is the embodiment of confusion. At work he is perfectly normal, nobody can even say there is any thing amiss, the usual intelligent, logical person and at home he has this complete change in personality. I actually reread the Validation thread before speaking to him yesterday but things got out of hand, back to homework. Most importantly I should stop speaking. I have been good at it for most part, but during the finances discussion I struggled
Nicole, when all this started my parents and inlaws suggested I go visit family in my country of origin for a few weeks. They thought distance will help. I suggested this to him and he blew a gasket, started saying sign the D papers and leave, or you cannot go anywhere with the kids. I would love a break more than anything but he wants me to face the music at home.
This morning I apologized for the argument yesterday night I - WAH I am sorry about how it went last night, just got out of hand. I want to be happy, you to be happy and most of kids to be happy and these situations are not useful to anybody WAH - Hmm its OK, just take whatever you want, I just want out.
Was this convo a mistake? On retrospect seems like pursuit, yikes
Update - WAH has set up the second mediation appointment, the last one I broke down and mediator asked us to get some MC. He refused so I went on my own. Now that it is a month he has set up a follow up, just relentless. Again it was like swallowing a thousand needles, the appointment is next friday. he texted me about it I never responded so he made sure to ask in person once he came home. I wish he was like other WAWs here, just threatening and not following through.
