Am I Piecing, or Pi$$ing in the wind???

[Clyde]

Do you really think she had an overnight ephiphany from cold heard B!tch, to loving sexual wife?

That question has been haunting me the past week.

I'm battling with the thought that if I am not receptive/reciprocal towards her, that I might be blowing what is left of our MR.

I am so over all the ups downs, not being able to be myself... that today I feel like ending it, I'm fed up w/ her BS, If not ending it, I feel like telling her this is how it is going to be or I'm done.

I've been reading Sandi's thread "for the newcomer w/ a wayward W. I don't know why I did not read these previous, I guess it is because I never considered her wayward until V pointed out that she does not have to have an A to be wayward. Anyhow, reading the thread has further cemented in my mind the fact she has no remorse for what she has done to the family and I.

So this week she has been getting home from work later than usual. I finally decided to put an extra cell phone in her truck to see if she was going anywhere other than work. When the cell was in her truck she did not go anywhere other than work, I checked her clock out times and it looks like she is staying at work an hour + after clocking out. They have a bar there, I believe she is staying and having a drink at the bar. Usually when she gets home she comes right to me and gives me a kiss... even if I am in bed, (I usually wait up for her to get home) she has not on these nights... perhaps so I don't smell the alcohol.

I want to tell her I know, and tell her it needs to stop, our R is in to fragile of a state to be doing this BS. This is were I want to draw the line on everything, tell her straighten up or hit the road.

Any advice on confronting? I fear that if I go on like I don't care, go on as we are, that is just what she wants. A roof over her head, etc...