Advice on my Scenario Pt. 15-Lighthouse Guardsman

[OrangeK]

If you want to ensure that she answers all of your questions regarding your son I would suggest you have it clearly spelled out in your D decree. My decree clearly states that the major decisions are joint but it does not get granular on the day to day stuff like what your asking about.

I plan on bringing this all up with my L and seeing how he will handle it. He will know better than I.

This is your way of trying to make her look bad and you get great joy out of doing it.

No, i am not. Nothing about this gives me Joy. I think that was assumptive on your part. This stuff drives me nuts, i hate it.
What would make me happy? if this never happened and my wife wasnt a deranged sociopath. that would make me happy. If you think i attain satisfaction out of any of this you are vastly mistaken.

Since you can't stick it to her directly because of the RO you try to stick it to her by asking questions about your S that you know she won't answer.
She won't answer them because it will make her look bad but you continue to ask because you can.

I expect her to answer, i just know she wont. She is a coward. She wont ever own up to what she has done, is doing or will do.
Her personality disorder causes her to blame shift to the degree that I could watch her kill a bunny, and she would turn around 5 min later and tell me I made her do it, its not her fault and i am to blame 100% AND SHE BELIEVES HERSELF.
I keep expecting to deal with an adult and forget i am dealing with an adult who has the emotional maturity of a 8 year old.

This will be par for the course for the next 15 years.

Your probably right, so what are your goals regarding your co-parenting R and are you modeling the appropriate behavior?

Setting my boundaries, sticking to them, and being amicable and flexible wherever else i can. However, i will not compromise my set boundaries to appease her or avoid an argument. She will argue anything she sees as not going her way, which could be literally anything she chooses.
I plan to draw my line in the sand, and not budge. EVER.
if something i can do can be accomplished from my side of that line in the sand, i will gladly do it.
I will not do her favors.
Bail her out,
ease her responsibility as a parent,
or fold or lie down for the D for her.

She made this bed we both have to sleep in, hell she even invited OM into our bed.

I plan on getting subpoenas for MIL, OM and Step-FIL to verify if she is still living at home, and to show S3 has been sleeping at OM's house.
I was told by MIL verbatim "Anytime S3 has EVER been in her care not yours, she has slept here at my house, her listed legal address."
this is a lie. Plain and simple. MIL knows it and so does WW.

WW lied on her response to my divorce petition, and she will be held accountable by the LAW. Not by me.
She broke the damn law, and will see the blow-back that causes, just like i had to with the TRO and her trunk.
Only difference is she committed a felony. Should be fun for her.
Im done F*cking around.
Its time to do this by the book. And that means a litigious D. The last thing in the world i wanted, but she chose this.