OK - IMO your conversations are way too long. These are not yes or no answers....I think you are making things way too difficult for yourself and I get the sense you are trying to make her look bad, trying to stick it to her, passive aggressive, etc.
When my D's are with their mom I do not ask her where they are at or what they are doing. I trust that as their mom she is watching out for them and will not put them in harms way. They were introduced to my EW's boyfriend last week. Nothing I can do about it, I told her I was disappointed and frustrated she didn't tell me ahead of time but then I dropped it and moved on.
I don't think these long texting dialogues are good for you and your healing process. In the over 1 yr that my W and I have not been together I have never engaged in that type of back and forth dialogue.
