She read the letter and called me in a fit of rage. And went on about all the negative things in the letter. In the letter i mentioned that she had a personality defect that she cannot sense simple answers to explanations.
Whether you intended to or not, you blamed her for everything. You even went so far as to tell her she has a mental illness they may have caused everything. These were very damaging things to say. First we all would have told you not to give her that letter, second even if you decided to give it to her anyway it should have been an APOLOGY letter where you owned your mistakes.
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I processed her words for a while and decided to call this quits. So i texted her saying that it would be our last conversation and after divorce its better to not be in contact. So we both can move on respective lives ahead.
If you decided to call it quits then why contact her at all? You are using every excuse you can to engage her when you should be leaving her alone. You are just applying constant, overwhelming pressure to her.
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As soon as i said that, she became belligerent and defensive and shouting.
Probably because you are trying to be controlling and manipulative.
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I disconnected the call and asked her to be peaceful so we can talk like adults and respectfully talk. Kept calling back and she was still belligerent.
Stop calling her.
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Anyways,i feel my wife is now exhibiting a lot of narcissistic traits. By calling me a narcissist she just projected her narcissistic feelings towards me.
I disagree, she does not sound at all narcissistic. I don't think you do either although I get the impression you are very controlling which she may be confusing with narcissism.
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i feel after listening to her yesterday i should withdraw my consent to dissolution and start pursuing her as she was left alone. And be strong and confident in my pursuit.
You are really all over the place. You said earlier in your post that you decided to call it quits, now you're going into full-blown pursuit mode? How do you think that makes you look to her? Wildly inconsistent at best.
I think you need a reset. This whole interaction was a bit of a disaster. Pull back and give her time and space. Study up on DB'ing, read the book again, read Cadet's links on the first page of your thread. Read Sandi's rules. Put it all into practice. Don't pick and choose what you want out of it, READ to UNDERSTAND.
