Wife is so cold and business-like with this D signing...Just straight to the facts of where we meet etc.,..It's almost like she isn't human anymore, just a robot focused on rolling path of destruction..
That's on the outside. Inside she's full of turmoil and confusion. She'll never show that to you though.
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I know I keep saying this but it is amazing how someone you thought loved,cherished, and accepted me forever could turn so quickly into something this evil without even trying to work anything out in the M...She never complained to her best friends, to me, to anybody,that she was unhappy at all in our marriage,etc...It's so disappointing that such a beautiful thing has to end to abruptly without warning..I know you think there had to be warning signs, I promise you there were NONE that anybody, not just myself, anybody saw..
There usually are not any warning signs. Most WAS's say they tried to get their H's attention for years, but that's rarely the case. Whatever it is that bothers them about the M, they suffer it in silence more often than not. Most LBS's are just like you, confused and seeking answers, wondering what happened, why it happened, how they missed the warning signs. You never get answers, but you eventually come to peace with not knowing. These are not math questions to be solved, our WAS's are purely driven off their feelings and they can't even explain it themselves.
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Any thoughts on how to keep it together during the D signing and try to act confident and content?
Like Steve said, D isn't the end of anything except the "legal" aspects of the M. You M is already over for now, D is just a formality. In many cases it's what the WAS needs to finally feel free of the LBS, and start their journey towards discovering the LBS may not have been the problem after all. And it helps the LBS to well and truly drop the rope and move on with their life. So try and look at the silver lining. I know it's tough to go through, but you've got amazing things heading your way in the future, maybe even a recon with your WAS.
