The fact is i did No Contact for a long while and it didn't work.
What do you mean NC "didn't work"? What results were you expecting to see come from NC?
Sandi2,
Thanks for checking into my thread. My wife said during the last few months, she felt since i didn't contact that I have forgotten her as I had gone completely dark. In a way it worked for her to miss me very much. She Questioned me - Where I was when she was roaming alone in ice cold snow winters? Where I was when she was sobbing profusely alone and going through difficult times? where I was when I should have atleast asked if she was even dead or alive. Even our mutual friends did not even contact and ask how she was doing. She thinks i stopped them due to selfish reasons so they dont get to know her side of story. She felt isolated and alone and was in pain when she spoke with me. It may be manipulative or not, but I really felt for her. She said for a long time to come she will be alone. She wanted me to send her my wedding card so she can hopefully move on in her life as well. Nevertheless she still wants to proceed with divorce on the July 6th. I have decided to withdraw my consent as its not the right thing to do. She may be belligerent, may take a TRO or curse me, I really don't care. I will simply withdraw my consent and love her from distance and pursue once in a while based on her moods. I will continue my GAL while she finds a new way to divorce me. Let me know your thoughts?
My thoughts are that the only thing I agree with what you said was withdrawing your consent. Make her do the heavy work of the D.
You admit that she might be being manipulative. Then you go on to say "but I really felt for her." So you don't mind being manipulated.
She is contradicting herself ("I felt all alone. But I still want a divorce.") is because she is lying. She is not being honest with you. She may not even being honest with herself!
I fell nutcrac that if you continue on this path of letting her "feel for her" that you will end up D'd permanently. You shouldn't even have had this discussion with her!
Good luck man. If you want a chance to save your marriage (and understand it is only a chance) then you will listen to sandi.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
