Tough to do the "Believe nothing she says and only half of what she does". How do you remain human through all of this.
Not sure what you mean? Obstinate spouses rarely say the truth. That is why you believe nothing they say.
This goes both ways. When they say "I don't love you anymore and I want a divorce." don't believe it. When they say "I think if we have an amicable D, one day we might be able to reconnect." don't believe it.
They will say whatever they feel at a given moment and they will say what they think they should say at a given moment.
My W, in the midst of her waywardness, told me flat out that if I asked her something that the answer she gave might be different if I asked again an hour later. Even the WWs that aren't purposely misleading their H's can't be trusted because they aren't even sure of the words that they are saying!
So when you say it is hard, I don't understand that. When you deal with a person that doesn't deal in the truth and reality, it would be hard to take anything they say at face value. You are allowing your love for you W skew whether or not you should be believing what she says.
We LBHs don't like to follow that advice because despite knowing the girl we married is gone, we want to believe she is still there some where. She isn't.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
