Well as I've said, my plan is already to ask her out. However I'd I am to continue with my picnic, that means I am not to text her. So how can I ask her out without being able to contact her? I have to wait until she suggests hanging out again don't I?
Just to clarify the picnic analogy, it just means have your own life and GAL and don't pursue the WAS, it doesn't mean don't ever contact them which is "going dark" (completely different than the picnic). In your case you do need to pursue her a bit though, because you're no longer a LBS and she's not a WAS. You are two people that have had a previous relationship together that are feeling each other out for a new relationship.
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"Hey what are you doing Friday night? Let's go to dinner and see a band."
I would suggest (as I did before) that you say "Hey, I'm going out to dinner and to watch "XYZ" play on Friday, you're welcome to come along if you want." The whole idea of the picnic is you have a life independent of her, full of fun activities. She's welcome to join if she wants, if not you're going anyway.
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Also V says it's too early for R talk yet others are saying to tell her it's we date or nothing because I'm not interested in friendship. Isn't that essentially the start of R talk? Maybe I'm just dense here but that's my perspective.
I think you're misunderstanding, we're telling you to be more assertive in inviting her along with you. We are NOT telling you to have an R talk. Dating comes first, R talk later.
