My WAS - looking help and thanks in advance PART 3

[Gordie]

Agree with Steve that a non d b counselor may give you contradictory advice

D b is not for everyone but if you are going to d b then you need to be consistent

You are in a business deal that has gone bad

Issue is you are legally responsible for a lot financially until you renegotiate a new deal which you have not done

Unilaterally moving money and restricting use of her car even though you pay for it will hurt you in the eyes of the law

See a lawyer before moving any money or doing anything financially

Here is the dynamic I see

W has checked out of M

You are still checked in M

W will continue to take advantage of you treating her like a W including as much money as is selfishly possible which is classic cake eating

You keep expecting her to treat you like a H and you get angry and sad and confused when she does not

Rely more on actions than words

Rather than saying I will not let you talk to me like that and then sit there and let her continue to talk to you

Just leave or hang up the phone or whatever it takes to end the conversation