Thanks for responding guys. My counselor brought up that I needed to tell her some things that she has not heard from me and be emotionally honest and that she needed to hear some of these things. Too much NGS for too long. I didn't know how this forum would take it, and I am trying to DB, but I appreciate the perspective either way!
I am still holding on by: -going to the restaurant -riding in car w her -telling her how I feel (following counselor's advice)
And even though she doesn't pay for the car, I should let her keep driving it? The payment were talking about is $1,000 a month. She stated she would not be able to keep the vehicle on her own. Ok, let's sell it IMO. I pay for the thing by myself while her cash (roughly $3,200/MO) goes god knows where. She could potentially keep it in cash, say she spent it, and there'd be no way for me to get any of that. All the while she was spending out of the joint account. So I just get double screwed bc I didn't even get to us the vehicle while paying for it and all this other crap.
I feel like the separate accounts, which I'm doing today, and me taking the car I am, at this point, solely financially responsible for, is action to the words that I won't support someone else's mistress. She likes to state things like "this is hers, that is hers", even when referring to the bed and others. I shouldn't sleep in the master bc she and her sister moved it in.
H 34 W 29 BD 3/12/18 Divorce Busted Spring 19
It is not things that bother us, but the stories we tell ourselves about things.
