Thanks kml and vanilla. Regarding ex, he does pay for child support and day care on time. Its the extra curriculars and medical that he stalls on. Its annoying. It seems that he lives pay check to pay check, so extra expenses becomes a challenge. Im the first to say there is no reason for him to live pay check to pay check with his salary and free living arrangements.
So changing the subject, i have been dating someone for 10 months now. I trusted him because he has a similar background to me. Single dad with older child now. Mother had a lot of issues.
But i am getting a sense that he is compartmemtalizing my son amd i. Like i notice that when i invite him to do things with son and i, it rarely happens.something comes up. And he doesnt make an effort to arrange things for the 3 of us either.
The first 6 to 7 months i did not want to introduce my son to someone i was dating. But then i thought it was time. So far i think the 2 of them might have met up a total of 2 times.
This is not something i would sign up for and i dont want to waste my time.
I have hinted and have extended invites. I dont want this turning into another situation with my ex and i, in which me and son get rejected.
But right now, because i am feeling that way i feel closed off. Like i dont want to go anywhere with him.
When we first met, he made sure i knew he was ok with me having a young child. He told me he would not have dated me if it was a problem for him. He even bought son birthday presents when we were only with each other for a month.
But right now there are no actions. I am feeling like he put his best foot forward but not sure the other is so hot.
Kind of like giving a waitress in arestaurant you frequent regularly a really nice tip the first visit and then just nornal or subpar tips later one.
