Chris, first take what the ex GF said with a grain of salt. Break ups are hard, and jilted women, especially, have axes to grind.
I had an exgf many years ago. Whenever we'd talk she'd always say that she thought the guy that just broke up with her was gay. I broke up with her, so I am sure she told others the same thing about me. Point is that they are not above false accusations.
Also, and a lot of WASs don't like to hear this, unless he has convictions on the above "crimes" you won't really have much of a leg to stand on. And even if he does, if the crimes are not of the sexual predator variety, there is probably little the legal system will do to prevent your WW from taking your kids around him. You have to chalk this up to the "you can't control her" thing. We all wish that you could go to the courts, tell them you don't want your kids around OM, and have the support of the legal system. Unfortunately, you do not.
Anyway, you seem like you are pretty good at reasoning things out. Looking at your options and judging likely outcomes. So make sure you go over everything with a lawyer. And also, if future R is a concern of yours, then yes you should tread lightly in the D proceedings. R is usually the biggest casualty in the legal wranglings that take place in D.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
