My WAS - looking help and thanks in advance PART 2

[Gordie]

Over rainbow

In short I do think it is controlling

But I came here to answer the question you asked me on the other thread

The ultimatum was delivered with few words and a lot of action

There was a catalyst and you can read back for details

She was in a PA with OM2 but wanted to keep up appearances that she was doing nothing wrong for her social standing and the kids

But she kept stalling on the divorce leaving me yes paying all the bills and covering up for her for over a year

I could not take this any longer

Do try to be patient for as long as possible

But the after LRT and ultimatum comes in when you just cannot take it any longer

I went from not helping her with the divorce to getting it done

My actions spoke louder than words

I was done with words

Within 30 days we had a divorce settlement that I could live with and I found a new place to live and was about to move out

Only then did she drop OM2 and the divorce

My advice to you is that it seems like you are still talking too much

And your w does not take your words seriously

Taking cars and such I do think is controlling until you have an agreement in place it is all joint property

Only you what you can take and for how long

Do try to be patient for as long as possible

If you cannot take it any more then make it official

Get the lawyers or mediators involved and get it al in black and white

Something you are willing to sign

And she will get a car out of it hers or yours so be realistic

It only works when you are willing to become the walkaway spouse

To do that with a clear conscience

Knowing you tried everything

And gave it your best shot

But that the emotional burden became too great

And are driven by your own self preservation

Hard to explain

But hope that helps