BM, I feel like you've ignored a lot of advice on this board. I really really really wish you had consulted the board before sending that text.
Impulsiveness will kill you in DBing. When you begin to react the way you did to her bringing this couple to the pick up you need to stop and think about what you are doing. The text did nothing except prove to your W that her bringing them bugged you. Probably the exact effect she was going for.
"It's really like she's TRYING to make things harder. " Because she is!! She wants you to give up. She wants you to get so frustrated that you are just willing to give up custody of your S. Does she really want full custody? Probably not but she likes the financial windfall that comes from full custody.
Texts like the one you sent do nothing. Texts to the cop do nothing. You cannot control any of it and trying to will only result in further frustration and potentially even more damaging behavior.
You had gone along doing pretty well recently. This is a setback. Your W can bring, unfortunately, anyone she wants (short of a sexual offender) to the pickups. It [censored], but it is the way that it is.
So start focusing on what you CAN control. You. I know it is hard. I struggled with control issues early in my sitch. The sooner you realize you have zero control over her the sooner you'll be able to truly detach. And trust me, your W knows that you aren't detached and that every thing she does to bug you will, in fact, bug you. Detachment isn't something you pretend, is something you live. And W's have a way of knowing when you are pretending.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
