Can I really do this #3

[LoneWlf]

I know you guys are separating and I don't want to spend every other week with you. We have grown apart and I really don't even like you that much
Those words are like a dagger thru the heart- very painful to even read. I will try to explain it from a different angle. My W had become the primary earner like you. My W before BD was a good mom IMO. We have a teenage S. Thru he years of him growing up I have always been more connected, taking him to and from school when he was young. Teaching him skills and doing activities like baseball, chess, taking him to all his swim lessons. I even coach his baseball and soccer teams. She would only spend time with him if it was something she had to go do like shopping. She feel as if she rarely would do something purely for him. Fast forward to now. My W has moved out to her new apartment it has been over a month my S has yet to reach out to her or visited her. I kind wonder how W is holding up because for me this would be a slow death sentence. I will not stand between them and I will support a relationship in the future if it happens. A while back My W asked me why does he not want to be with me? I feel -as the saying goes - you get what you give. Not implying that you did not give JS.
My suggestion now is to really pay attention to what interests your D. Best time I feel to get info is when you are driving her with her friends in the car and just listen to what interests them. Use this information to slowly create a connection with D, not pushing but always asking open ended questions that require a small explanation. Be aware of music she listens to shows she watches even items that she values. Just try to connect in very small ways and increments. Hopefully this will open her heart. Good luck on your journey.