Nicole, H has had a good childhood with most things provided for. And he really has not shown any depressive tendencies in the 15 years, he might have had some blues but nothing even remotely close to this.
V, H has been the most gentle speaking non confrontational individual before BD, sure we had our fights but nothing even close to a D level. and he really has been kind and supportive throughout, patience being one of his strengths. After BD it is a complete change in personality in every which way. If he was like this before BD, I would not have decided to fight to keep an abusive H. If his depression has turned him into this, I want to give the H that he was a chance to come back.
