Is there hope?

[Gordie]

Good job at being calm and detached

As kml notes this will really frustrate her

Expect serious escalation and button pushing

She will want to be back in control of you

When my w got to this phase

Everything was fair game

I was bad in bed

I was a terrible father

I was not a good provider

I was controlling

I was unsupportive

Etc etc etc

Reality had nothing to do with these complaints

But she tried everything to get me back under her control and apologizing

But I eventually stopped apologizing when I realized her complaints had nothing to do with me and the life we lived

I just listened and said nothing when I could

When I could not I said I am not participating in this discussion and left the room